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Invite the Anxiety: Wilson's Paradoxical Approach to OCD

Fighting or trying to suppress an obsession often amplifies it. Reid Wilson, PhD, a psychologist who has treated OCD since 1983, teaches a paradoxical self-help approach: deliberately invite the anxious feeling rather than resist it, which can paradoxically loosen its grip over time. This is a self-help complement to, never a replacement for, working with an ERP-trained clinician, especially for moderate-to-severe OCD.

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Anxiety Disorders Treatment Center · Chapel Hill/Durham, NC
Not endorsed · Based on the published work of Reid Wilson
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What the evidence says
Notice the pattern

Name the trigger and the urge to resist it

When an obsession or anxious spike appears, notice both the trigger and your automatic urge to push it away or fight it.

Naming the resistance urge, separately from the obsession itself, is the first step to changing your relationship to it.

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Invite it in

Deliberately invite more of the feeling rather than pushing it away

Instead of fighting the anxious feeling, practice a 'bring it on' reframing: actively invite more of the sensation rather than resisting it.

Wilson's model holds that resistance is what feeds the obsession's power; deliberately inviting the feeling removes the fuel.

youtube.com/watch?v=d8qO94QFSSw, "OCD: Want What You Don't Want!"
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Let it pass

Let the urge to perform a compulsion rise and fall without acting on it

Once you have invited the feeling in, let the urge to check, wash, or otherwise perform a compulsion rise and fall on its own, without acting on it.

This is the same underlying principle as response prevention, delivered through an acceptance-based framing rather than a pure exposure-hierarchy framing.

theocdstories.com, "8 OCD Self Help Principles"
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Start small

Practice daily with small, deliberately chosen triggers first

Build this skill on small, low-stakes triggers before attempting your hardest ones.

Starting small builds the skill and confidence needed before tackling higher-stakes obsessions.

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Know what this is (and isn't)

Treat this as a complement to, not a replacement for, clinician-directed ERP

For moderate-to-severe OCD, this self-help framing works best alongside, not instead of, ERP delivered by a clinician trained specifically in OCD.
⚠ This is a self-help complement; moderate-to-severe OCD should be treated by an ERP-trained clinician.

Wilson's own materials present this as an accessible on-ramp and self-help tool, not a substitute for the gold-standard clinical treatment.

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What it is

Reid Wilson, PhD, directs the Anxiety Disorders Treatment Center in Chapel Hill/Durham, NC, and has specialized in OCD and anxiety disorders since 1983. This page summarizes his self-help framing: resisting or suppressing an obsession functions like fighting quicksand, it makes the grip stronger. Deliberately inviting the anxious feeling, rather than resisting it, is a variant on classic acceptance-based exposure principles, presented here as an alternative on-ramp for people who bounce off a purely clinical ERP-only framing, not as a replacement for ERP itself.

Why it works
Wilson's decades of clinical work and field recognition (ADAA's highest service award in 2014, the International OCD Foundation's Service Award in 2019) sit behind this approach. The core idea, that trying to push away an intrusive thought or feeling paradoxically strengthens it, while willingly inviting and allowing it can loosen its hold, is a variant of acceptance-based exposure principles already established in the anxiety-treatment literature.
The evidence
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Reid Wilson, PhD - anxieties.com
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OCD: Want What You Don't Want!
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8 OCD Self Help Principles with Reid Wilson (The OCD Stories)
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Is this for you?
Good fit if
  • Readers who bounce off a purely clinical, exposure-hierarchy-only framing
  • Anyone whose anxiety intensifies the more they try to fight or suppress it
  • People looking for a self-help on-ramp alongside, not instead of, ERP with a clinician
Cautions
  • Informational only, a self-help complement, not a diagnosis or treatment plan
  • Not a replacement for Exposure and Response Prevention delivered by an ERP-trained clinician, especially for moderate-to-severe OCD
  • Wilson sells self-help books and a paid course; this page draws only on his freely published, non-commercial content (anxieties.com)
  • If you are in crisis, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US) or your local emergency services
Common questions
How is 'inviting' the anxiety different from just giving up and letting OCD win?
It is the opposite: fighting or avoiding the feeling is what keeps the obsession-compulsion loop running. Willingly inviting the feeling, without performing the compulsion, is what breaks the loop, the same underlying principle as response prevention, framed differently.
Is this a replacement for ERP therapy?
No. Wilson presents this as a self-help complement and an accessible on-ramp, especially for people who bounce off a purely clinical framing. For moderate-to-severe OCD, it works best alongside ERP delivered by a clinician trained specifically in OCD.
Does Reid Wilson sell anything related to this?
He publishes free, non-commercial material at anxieties.com (the source for this page) and also sells self-help books and a paid course; that commercial content is not what this page draws from.
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